A lady has sought advice on going no-contact with her mother-in-law, over how she raised her kids, while they were in her care during her and her husband’s vacation.
Shw was very surprised when her husband talked about how he was disciplined as a child when they met. He’d describe a p¥n#shment that sounds like what would be done to cr!m!nals and then say something like “my dad did that to me at 11 when I wet the bed”.
One time he mentioned how his mom tired up his 12 years old sisters and put hot pepper in her v@gina because she brought a male classmate to the house to study. She explained to him that, that was ab¥se and she didn’t go through that and she turned out fine.
They agreed then not to raise their kids like that when they had them. She usually take the kids to visit their grandparents, both her parents and her mother in-law. She stayed over with them whenever she visited so there has never been any issue.
Last week was their wedding anniversary and herself and her husband decided to take a trip to a resort, just the two of them to celebrate. Her parents and siblings all lived in another state and she was contemplating having her friends come over to watch the kids. When her mother in-law heard, she asked why she would want a stranger watch her grandkids when she’s alive.
She was skeptical at first but her husband convinced her to allow her. She came a day before they left and promised to take good care of them. She had raised her kids to be well mannered so she wasn’t expecting any issue to arise. They returned home 5 days later and when they got inside, the kids weren’t in the living room. It was strange seeing an empty sitting room. Mama convinced her that they were willingly in bed but her maternal instincts said otherwise.
As she opened their bedroom door, she heard a gasp and then silence. She went to her baby’s bed and she saw her shutting her eyes tight, she looked fearful and flinched when she touched her. She asked her “What’s wrong?” She jumped on her body and screamed mummy as soon as she heard her voice and started crying. Her son joined her too and she was confused as to they were crying and thought about where their elder sister was
Initially, she thought they had missed her, but the tears was too much for that. Their grandma came into the room with her husband. When her son saw her, he ran to his bed and mama started screaming at the one on her body to go to bed. Her baby cried harder saying “Mummy, don’t let her b£at me”. She filled her in on how grandma has been b£ating them and said “Mummy, if you see my sister”. She didn’t allow her finish before she quickly went to her bed. She ripped the covers off her and she was shivering and running temperature.
Her mentr¥al flow started two days ago and it came when they were away. She had forgotten to dispose one of her used pad and left it in a black nylon in their bathroom. Mama discovered and called her attention to it. She apologized and went to thrash it but the apology wasn’t enough for mother in-law. She b£at her and further asked her to go outside to the compound to kneel down. She was there under sun all dav till late in the evening.
The next day, she had been unable to get off bed and the younger ones went to inform grandma. She said she was faking it, she still f%rced her to do chores without giving her any dr¥gs for the fever.
She told her that was how her father was raised and he didn’t di£ so she would be fine. She was livid upon hearing all of these. Her husband saw the state she was and rushed her to the car. She took the other two to follow him and mother in-law tried to stop her that it wasn’t a big deal. She pushed her off her but she wouldn’t stop sok ked her out of anger. We took my daughter to the hospital and stayed that night. We got back the next day and mama had left.
She called her son crying the next day that I beat her up last night cos she was trying to calm me down. I took the phone and called her liar and that the only reason I didn’t involve the police was because she’s my MIL and that nothing must happen to my child.
Not up to an hour my husband ended the call, his sister called and said I was proud and that is why I feel my kids are above correction. I told her that was the reason she was unable to conceive as God was trying to save the kids from her. My husband has blocked her and mama. He said said he’d realized how t xic his family was because despite that mama almost have our daughter k ed, she still supported her. He doesn’t want us exposed to that. We are trying to decide if we should go non contact with them but won’t that be going too far? Kindly advice.
