The AVERAGE Igbo Man is abusive, uncouth and has
no respect for women. I have watched them display
perennial insanity over time.
Sometime I wonder if it is the high amount
they pay for Bride Price that makes them think,
women are inanimate chattels to be owned, seen but
For the sake of clarity. I am not referring to every
Very rude Igbo Men that won’t hesitate to abuse a
woman with her sex organs.
Last year I was coming back from Joy Bewaji’s
#Conversation in Ibadan; at Oshodi, I boarded a bus
with my Sister Jacqueline Ibeh, to Mile 2.
The angry looking Igbo conductor was just throwing
tantrum as if, he was doing a forced labour. I paid for
our fare and my sister asked him politely after
sometime for our balance.
The man flared up and began to abuse her. Just like
“Ashewo” ‘you are just chasing men upandan’ I
possibly can’t type out all the abusive words he used
for her, just for asking for balance.
My sister responded to him in a commensurate
measure. I had to plead with her to ignore his
Wetin dey pepper the man for body?
Can’t he look at people and mind his business.
He was just angry that one fine girl was with me.
Did my sister prevent him from having a woman in
‘I will beat you up’ ‘ashewo’ ‘see dem’ from one man
to another. He was saying all these in Igbo language.
Am sure you know how these words sound in Igbo
Well, we got to our junction and alighted. Good
Yesterday, I was on my way from Illupeju to Ikeja,
after attending Neco briefing for Supervisors. Our
vehicle developed a mild fault. Nigerians in their
usual manner were shouting at the driver. The man
had no choice than to halt and hand them over to
another Driver. I was just sitting jejely on one corner,
watching the drama. The same set of people that
alighted, suddenly changed their minds when
another vehicle wasn’t forthcoming. They asked the
driver to drive gently to the next stop.
A certain lady climbed back into the vehicle and sat in a
particular position, so the young man who sat there
prior to that stop sat close to her and was grumbling
that she had taken his position. I watched them in
silence. By right, since they had all alighted, with the
intent of boarding another vehicle, nobody had right
to a previous sitting position.
The guy told the Lady in a rude and entitled way, to
adjust. The lady made it clear that there was no place
to adjust to. Truly that was the case. The guy rebuked
her and asked her to shut-up. The lady politely asked
him why he was rebuking her. The next thing, the guy
uttered was: ‘Ozu’ ‘smelling thing’ I was like what the
Just like that?
It has turned into an issue of smells.
The lady responded with equal fury and the guy kept mute after threatening to beat her up.
Now, the funny part of this whole drama, is that the
conductor was abusive to everybody. That same guy
threatening a woman asked for his balance and the
conductor responded like this ‘God go punish you,’
‘idiot’ ‘na who owe you change’ the guy couldn’t
respond. He was busy making explanations to the
conductor. I just dey look the guy with corner eye.
You see, the reason he spoke to the girl in that manner
was because she is a woman and he feels that she is
inferior to him.
This is the mindset of an average Igbo man. They
need a special kind of reorientation before they can
start thinking and talking well.
Btw this two instances are just isolated. I have seen a
lot. Even on social media, you need to see how Igbo
Men abuse women for saying their minds on certain
If you are such an Igbo Man, repent!
My name is Victor Ibeh and I am Igbo.
Copyright, Victor Ibeh 2016